There comes a time in everyone’s life when you get benched. In some form or fashion you’ve been made to sit it out. To become a spectator and rely on others to play the game for you. Your cards have been placed back into the deck. 
It is in these moments that your character is put to the test. The greatest moment for some may be learning the art of humility. What it truly means to support the team. Life is no longer about you. Your perspective is now broadened and you realize now that you are part of much bigger plan. As the benchee will you prove to be a cornerstone, a platform for those of your team to lean on?
Laken’s accident has helped me to realize all of the above and more. Through my daughter’s time on the bench I’ve seen her face so many physical, mental, and emotional challenges. Her perseverance to press forward go all out striving to give all she can to everyone else even if she is giving it all from the bench has made me look at my own life roles. 
As a Mother there are times that I find myself benched. I’ve pulled from the deepest part of my inner being to provide reasonable advice and sometimes sound counsel. In the end I am benched, and it is up to my children on how they receive my advice and counsel to apply it in their own lives. We can guide, sculpt, and supervise all we want but ultimately our children grow and become their own person with their own wants, needs and ideals. 
As an associate I am called upon for my recommendations regarding my experience and expertise. At the end of the day there are decisions that are out of my hands. In these times I am benched. I am learning from watching my daughter to take a step back and support the broader vision of the entire team. Visions adapt, and perspectives change for everyone.
In the big room I’ve learned to listen, wait, and listen some more. It is not necessary for my opinion to be shared at this time. It is perfectly okay if I am not picked or chosen for a position, or answer. In the end it is gratifying to just be there and watch others evolve, and contribute.
As a wife, I have learned that it is acceptable to disagree and not make it known. My husbands interests are indeed greater than my own. Mike and I have varied interests, ideas, and thoughts. Throughout our marriage he has always supported every decision, and action I have made and been there for my family in every way. Yes, even I can be a supportive mate and allow someone else to make the final decision in my life. 
After much self reflection and earnest prayer I am content with checking in on family and friends. Loving them from the bench and supporting them in the decisions they make concerning, health, relationships, and other matters. Even though at times my opinions differ a great deal from theirs. My role is to be a supportive friend, aunt, sister, cousin, niece, wife, associate, colleague, and mother.
I am forever grateful for my daughters ability to be benched and remain a constant foundation for myself and her peers.
I have many more lessons to learn in this road we travel, all the while I surely hope they do not come in this manner. One thing we have all agreed on is that we are okay on the bench, and we are comfortable in supporting those around us reach their full potential.
I invite you to stay tuned, as we may have an ace or two up our sleeves.
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